The Globe And Mail reported a bizarre story about an ex-wife in Indiana who created a fake facebook profile to spy on her ex-husband. Through this fake profile she soon became his on-line confidante, and he slowly revealed to this "confidante" a plan to kill this ex-wife. The ex-wife quickly reported him to the authorities. However, in a surprising twist, all of the charges were dropped once the ex-husband proved that he had made the whole scheme up, knowing that his ex-wife was still tampering with his life. Read the article here.
In relation to our last post about gay divorce in the US, The Telegraph has an article about gay divorce in the UK:
"Almost 50,000 same-sex couples have formalised their relationships since civil partnerships were introduced in December 2005.
During 2010, 6,385 civil partnerships were registered in the UK, 100 more than in 2009, the Office for National Statistics said.
However, as growing numbers of couples register their partnerships, the number splitting up has also risen.
Last year, 509 civil partnerships were dissolved across the UK, an increase of 44% since 2009, when 353 couples separated.
In order to obtain a dissolution, a couple must have been in either a registered civil partnership or a same-sex partnership recognised abroad or 12 months." Read the rest of the article here.
The New York Times reports:
If you thought the fight over same-sex marriage has been tumultuous, just wait for the era of same-sex divorce. With New York State’s new law allowing same-sex marriage, not just for residents but for out-of-staters as well, a bumper crop of weddings is sure to follow — and, eventually and inevitably, a sizable number of divorces.
But Americans are a roving sort, and people who marry and move to places hostile to their union could find, in disunion, a legal limbo. A couple who marry in New York and seek a divorce in Texas could find themselves fighting not just each other but also Texas’ attorney general, Greg Abbott. He has tried to intervene in two same-sex divorces, arguing that if the state does not recognize the marriage it won’t recognize the divorce, either.
If blocked in Texas, the unhappy couple can’t head back to New York for a quick split either. New York’s same-sex marriage law does not require residency to wed, but the state does require residency of at least 90 days to obtain a divorce. A stay like that is out of the question for most people.
“Where can you get a divorce?” asked Tobias Barrington Wolff, a professor at the University of Pennsylvania Law School. “The answer might be nowhere, perversely.” Read the rest of the article.
Pew Research Center reports: The role of fathers in the modern American family is changing in important and countervailing ways. Fathers who live with their children have become more intensely involved in their lives, spending more time with them and taking part in a greater variety of activities. However, the share of fathers who are residing with their children has fallen significantly in the past half century.
In 1960, only 11% of children in the U.S. lived apart from their fathers. By 2010, that share had risen to 27%. The share of minor children living apart from their mothers increased only modestly, from 4% in 1960 to 8% in 2010.
According to a new Pew Research Center analysis of the National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG), more than one-in-four fathers with children ages 18 or younger now live apart from their children -- with 11% living apart from some of their children and 16% living apart from all of their children. Read the rest of the article here.
Failing to give marriage top priority over job-related stress is a major cause of divorce. Money problems, longer work hours, and unemployment or other work setbacks can lead to spouses making less time for one another and feelings of resentment or dissatisfaction. A recent article in the Chicago Tribune suggests some ways to avoid common work-related problems that can breakdown a marriage:
- Communicate dissatisfaction in a way that's not judgmental.
- Remember that everyone is vulnerable to job or financial loss. Going into marriage with lifelong expectations of lifestyle or job security is unrealistic.
- Divide the workload at home. Working as a team strengthens marriage.
- Both partners have to be committed to encouraging sex and accepting sexual advances.
- Try to compartmentalize. Once you leave work, leave the work stress behind.